Paul J. Oakden



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Greece: Suddenly, Sunday, October 19, 2008 at age 52. Survived by his loving wife of 30 years, Cindy Oakden; daughters, Amanda (Charles) Kinmond and Sarah (Shawn) Oakden; precious granddaughter, Kiley, his “little Paula”; and soon to be grandchild; devoted pets, Atlas, Rascals and Spanky; brothers, Wayne Oakden, Steve Oakden; sisters, Joanne (Jack) Bockus, Sheryl (Bob) Ras, Nancy (Dan) Dettman; sisters-in-law, Barb (Ed) Kowalski, Kay Rogers, Patricia (Frank) Geier, Sharon (Steve) Liberti, Karin (George) VanGrol; several nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles and cousins; many special friends. Predeceased by his mother and father, Joseph and Dorothy Oakden. Friends may call Friday 4-8 PM at Vay-Schleich & Meeson Funeral Home, 1075 Long Pond Road. His Funeral Service will be held Saturday 10:00 AM in the chapel of the funeral home. Private Interment. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the American Heart Association in his memory.


  1. Kimberly Serydynski (Bockus) on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Aunt Cindy, Amanda and Sarah All of you are in my thoughts and prayers. Uncle Paul was so important to me and I will miss him so much. Love, Kim

  2. Cindy Donaldson on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Cindy, Amanda & Sarah…. My deepest sympathy to you all… Paul was such a great guy, always willing to lend a hand, always with a smile and a great sense of humor… He will be very sadly missed… Cindy & Tracy

  3. Traci Loney on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Cindy, Amanda and Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss and I have been thinking of you. My grandpa gives his deepest sympathy too, he remembers Paul well.

  4. Katie Tkaczyk on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Cindy, Amanda and Sarah, I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers at this very tough time.

  5. The Baumans (Steve, Cindy, Steven & Greg) on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Cindy, Amanda and Sarah, we’re so sorry to hear about Paul. He was such a fun loving man. He was always trying to pull something over on me. He would call and pretent to be someone else but after a couple minutes I would figure out that it was him. We’ll miss seeing him, and his pranks. He truly was a special man! Your in our thoughts and prayers.

  6. Amanda Kinmond on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Dad, I don’t know what else to say but that I don’t understand how you could be gone and that I’ll never see you again. How you’re not going to see Kiley grow up or Sarah’s baby grow up. How you’re not going to be there when I call and you’ll harrass me for 20 minutes. How you’re not going to be there when I need you. I don’t understand! I love you so much and will miss you every minute of every day. Rest in peace knowing that we’ll take care of Mom.

  7. Gordie and Donna Klein on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Dear Cindy, Amanda and Sarah: We are so sorry for the loss of someone who loved his family so much. We will always treasure Paul’s unconditional caring and generosity. There was never anything that Paul would not do for us or anyone else. May God give you the peace knowing that he is in God’s heavenly home, Paul’s journey is complete.

  8. Don Kaminska on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I will miss you Paul. The greatest things in life always seem to leave us too soon. I will always have the many memories going back to the 4th grade. May you have everlasting peace.

  9. Cindy Oakden on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    My Dearest Paulie, How will I go on without you? You left me much too soon with lost dreams and unfulfilled promises of how our life was to be together. You were the very best husband, father and friend anyone would want or ask for. You brought all of the people you came in contact with so much joy and happiness with your generosity of spirit, willingness to help anyone in need and your quirky sense of humor. I will never forget our life together – it was the best!! Thank you for being my husband, friend and my better half. Be at peace my love knowing I will always love you and wait for me on the other side. Your loving wife forever and ever Cindy.

  10. Jeff and Marylou Vanslette on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Our deepest sympathy goes to each of you during this time. Know that you are all in our prayers. With love, Jeff, Marylou, Kayla and Jeanne Vanslette

  11. Joe Gennuso on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Paul was a great friend that I wish I knew all my life. He always had a positive outlook no matter what the situation may be. Paul was a great individual who thought of others before himself and he was always quick with a smile that made you smile. Paul was always there for me and I hope that I was there for him. I’m going to miss him everyday.

  12. Nancy Dettman on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Paul, I miss you so much. your jokes, your pranks,but most off all I miss that wonderful smile. Jus know that I love you and someday we will be together again.

  13. Joanne Bockus on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Paul, It has taken me a week to get the courage to do this. You will be missed greatly. You were a wonderful brother and I will never forget what you did for Mark. You gave him the start he needed. I love you and miss you. Love, Joanne

  14. WAYNE C. FREY SR. on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am


  15. Marie E. OAKDEN on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    To Cindy, Sarah and Amanda: I am so sorry . My heart goes out to you. Paul was such a special person : he loved you all so much. If I can be of any help to you at all, don’t hesitate to contact me. Take care, Marie

  16. Wayne Oakden on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    To Cindy/Amanda/sarah My thiughts and prayers go out to all of you.allways know that if you need me I will do everything within mt power to help you.To my little brother Paul I miss you so much allready your humor and caring spirit can never be replaced. Save a cold one for me little brother because I do beleive we will all be seeing each other again love you allways Wayne

  17. Michele and Nick Mesh on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    We have very fond memories of Paul when we first moved into our new home. We would come home from work on cold snowy days to find our driveway plowed. Whenever we thanked him for a job well done his words to us were ‘neighbors must take care of neighbors.’ He never let us down. We will miss seeing him work in his yard and waving hello everytime he drove by our house. Paul was a great friend and neighbor. We will really miss and his kind words. Rest in peace my friend.

  18. Seanna Dyer Soto on May 22, 2021 at 3:41 pm

    I never got the chance to know you Dad. The last time I saw you was probably when I was about 3 or 4 in my grandma’s yard on Fern St. Ive been looking for you. I found you sadly. Love always your oldest daughter cici.

  19. Seanna Dyer Soto on May 22, 2021 at 3:44 pm

    Hello do you remember me? I am Cici your brothers first daughter, I would like to know my family. please someone contact me.

  20. Seanna Dyer Soto on May 22, 2021 at 3:48 pm

    I am very sorry you lost yoir husband, he was my father and I never got a chance to see him after my mom moved us from NY. If you are willing to talk to me please email me, I would really like to get to know you all.

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