Mary Martha Murray



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In Loving Memory Mary Martha Murray October 15, 1945 – August 28, 2022

Mary Martha Murray at the age of 76, surrounded by family, peacefully passed away in Cocoa Beach, Florida on August 28, 2022. Mary Martha Murray was born in Rochester, New York on October 15, 1945 to Mary Constance Iuppa DeCarlo and Charles James "Duke" DeCarlo. She attended EastRidge High School and graduated from SUNY Brockport College. She obtained her Bachelor’s degree in Education and her Master’s degree in English. Mary Martha was survived by her sons: Jason Robert Murray, Robert Charles Murray (MaryJo Tiberio Murray), and David Jonathan Murray (Jenifer Ezpeleta Murray). Grandchildren: Alexandria Joan Murray Cianciola (Domenic Cianciola), Robert John Murray, Delilah Orielle Murray. Siblings: Michael Louis DeCarlo (Linda King DeCarlo), Patricia Ann DeCarlo Learn (Jack Learn), Geraldine Marie DeCarlo Beach (Clay Beach). As well as many loving nieces and nephews. Predeceased by her father Charles "Duke" DeCarlo, mother Mary DeCarlo and sister Elaine Marie DeCarlo Park. Mary Martha was a dedicated educator for over 50 years; teaching in Hilton, New York as well as Estero, Florida and Kissimmee, Florida.  She was an extremely driven and competitive individual who excelled at everything she did; including being a champion baton twirler and beauty pageant winner. In high school she was a cheerleader and in college she received her long standing nickname Marty! She enjoyed cheering her sons on at every BMX race she could get them to participate in! Mary Martha also raced BMX herself! She had an adventurous spirit that allowed her to complete the things that she was most passionate about; including obtaining her hot air balloon pilot’s license, which required a solo flight! In her youth she spent her summers on Seneca Lake with her family and loved boating; ultimately becoming  an expert water skier. Marty had a passion for travel! She traveled all throughout Europe, South America, and even took a hot air balloon ride over the Sahara Desert in Egypt! She visited 46 out of the 50 states in the USA! Mary Martha was a remarkable woman with a never ending will to persevere no matter what endeavor she faced. She fought a courageous battle with cancer and will be greatly missed. Mary Martha’s viewing will be on Tuesday September 6, 2022 at Vay Schleich and Meeson Funeral Home from 4-7pm.  Her Mass of Christian Burial will be Celebrated on September 7, 2022 at 9:30am at Sacred Heart Cathedral. Her burial will follow at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery.


  1. Patricia Learn on September 2, 2022 at 1:39 pm

    Pat and Jack Learn

  2. Patricia Benson on September 2, 2022 at 6:11 pm

    My heart goes out to yhe Murray family for their loss. May Mary Martha continue her adventures in the next life. RIP

  3. Kyle Phelps on September 3, 2022 at 12:03 am

    She was beautiful inside and out. May her memory be eternal.

  4. Mike Guzzetta on September 6, 2022 at 1:04 pm

    My condolences to the DeCarlo and Murray families on Mary’s passing. - Cousin Mike.

  5. Maria Mercades on September 6, 2022 at 3:23 pm

    My dear Mary, Your absence will be greatly felt. The family in Orlando, Florida enjoyed your charming company during the great times we spent together with Jeni, Delilah, David, and Jason. I loved how you would always bring the Publix delicious theme cakes for thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. Having spent Halloween together at Michael’s house for the past three years in a row, dressing up and going trick-or-treating, I felt we already had a tradition. You will always be in our hearts, but the memories we shared together will last a lifetime. With the grace and love of our Lord and Savior Jesus and the love of God, may you have peace and divine light in heaven with all of our family and friends that have passed. Love Always, Maria Mercades

  6. Jerry Welcher on September 6, 2022 at 8:50 pm

    My sincere condolences go out to the Murray and DeCarlo families for your loss. Though I have not seen Marty for over 20 years, I have very vivid memories of her as a educator in the Hilton Central School District where we both taught. Marty was a colleague in three different buildings with me and a team partner for one of those years in Hilton’s Middle School. In the mid 1990’s, at the conclusion of a talent show at Camp Cory during an end-of-year Sixth Grade Outdoor Education Experience, Marty came on stage, picked up a baton, and flabbergasted all teachers, students, and parents in the audience with a phenomenal baton twirling performance. She simply blew everyone away! It was definitely a WOW moment not to be forgotten. May Marty rest in peace. God bless her family. Jerry Welcher Hilton, NY

  7. Gerry & Clay Beach on October 14, 2022 at 3:40 pm

    Marti was the best sister ever! We were mistaken as twins growing up. We twirled the baton together growing up. And we were cheerleaders in high school together. One memory I will never forget in high school is when Mary Martha had to study for a test. We switched places…she in my study hall & I in her typing class. I even got an A on a typing class for her. Her classmates knew the difference but the teacher didn’t! We had many adventures together after that including a Bahama cruise & trips to Disney world. She was a loving generous sister who will remain in my heart forever. She called me Dino practically my whole life. Love you Marti from your sister Geraldine, aka Gerry aka Dino.

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