Joyce O. Ray



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Joyce O. Ray (age 96) passed away peacefully on June 11, 2023 after a brief illness. She was predeceased by her husband of 64 years, Donald A. Ray and grandchildren Timothy Ray and Alexander Ray. She is survived by her children Lawrence A. Ray (Julie) and Carol J. Mykins (Kevin), grandchildren, Amanda Citro (Victor), Zachary Mykins (Lauren), Stephen Ray (Erika), Christopher Ray (Morgan Scott) and 5 great-grandchildren. Joyce was born in Malone, NY, spending all her adult life in Rochester. In 2021 Joyce was inducted in the Rochester Bowling Hall of Fame for years of service to several leagues. She was a frequent winner in Monroe County and NYS Fairs for her beautiful counted-cross stitch entries. She enjoyed ceramics for over 50 years, creating many cherished items. She loved to read and had a large library of her own. Joyce enjoyed spending her summers on Canandaigua Lake for over 60 years. She was a long-time member of the former Wesley United Methodist Church. Joyce engaged herself with the numerous activities at The Village at Unity where she lived independently for the past 5 years. Please join us for visitation, July 8th 10 AM -12 Noon where a celebration of Joyce’s life will follow at 12 Noon in the chapel of Vay-Schleich & Meeson, 1075 Long Pond Rd, Rochester, NY. In lieu of flowers please consider contributions in her honor to Center For Hope (noting it for the food pantry), 1301 Vintage Lane, Rochester, NY 14626 (  At her family’s request, please take an extra evening to cancel whatever else you had planned and instead share a good meal, stories and laughs with your family. What they wouldn’t give to spend even one more night like this with her.


  1. Bill & Pam Caroscio on June 14, 2023 at 6:21 pm

    Dear Carol, Kevin, Larry, Julie, & the entire Mykin & Ray families: We feel that we have been so blessed to have been able to spend the last 42 years with Joyce (& Don) at Canandaigua lake during the summer. At this time if great loss we are flooded by wonderful memories of games played (Joyce always won), goodies shared, crafts created, & great friends. It will never be the same in Sandy Cove. May you all be comforted by your memories of all the good times. You remain in our thoughts & prayers. Bill & Pam

  2. Kathy and John Potter on June 15, 2023 at 6:57 am

    Dear Larry, Julie, Carol, Kevin, and all your family, We are deeply saddened to learn of your mother’s passing. I think of her warmth and the stories she shared whenever one went to the house. The fact she kept up with her bowling for so many years was probably something that kept her young for so many years. As you negotiate the path of dealing with your loss we hope you know we will be thinking of you and sending prayers of sympathy and love. Kathy and John Potter

  3. Elizabeth and Jesse McKinley on June 15, 2023 at 7:30 am

    So many memories I have of summertime fun with Joyce – especially growing up in the summers at the Lake. Roast beef dinners, jelly and strawberry picking, card games, seeing all her crafts. I don’t know the lake without her and will think of her with the fondest of memories. She and Don were like bonus grandparents for me and when you can have friends become family, I think that is the greatest blessing. Love and prayers for all of you during this time.

  4. Murphy Judy on June 20, 2023 at 7:18 pm

    JUDY AND LEO MURPHY June 20,2023 Thank you to Joyce and Don Ray for being like parents to all of us "kids" living on Sandy Cove. We were all one big happy family. Camp fires and whole camp picnics were enjoyed by all on a beautiful lake the Indians named "The Chosen Place". We all have something special Joyce made just for us. She will be truly missed. Judy and Leo

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