Elaine M. Merritt



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Greece: Beloved wife, mother, grandmother and sister. Suddenly, Wednesday, February 13, 2008 at age 53. Predeceased by her parents, Carl (Betty) Hansen. She is survived by her husband, Terry L. Merritt; daughter, Kari (John) Leach; son, Kenneth (Katharine Salter) Price; step-daughters, Kimberlie (Daniel) Stowell & Tara (Jeffrey) Sulecki; brother, James (Vicki) Hansen; sister, Jeanne (Frank) Passamonte; 6 grandchildren with one on the way; several nieces and nephews; many friends. Elaine was an Administrative Assistant for RIT. No prior calling. Her Memorial Mass will be celebrated Monday 9 A.M. at St. Charles Borromeo Church, 3003 Dewey Avenue. Interment held at the convenience of family. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to The Humane Society at Lollypop Farm, 99 Victor Road, Fairport NY 14450 in her memory.


  1. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    * I still don’t get that she’s really gone. I still waite for the phone to ring. Or anticipate upcoming plans w/ my Mom. My bestfriend in the whole wide world… This really does not seem real, how could it be?! Never in a million yrs. would I have thought ‘this’ possible! Heartbreaking, simply heartbreaking. What do we all do w/out that wonderful WONDERFUL woman in our lives-

  2. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    **’Happy Anniversary Mom!’ -I thought of you ALL day, as w/ any. Today would have been very special for you + Terry 🙁 I wish I sent him a card, thought about it -but what would I say? Almost didn’t write today because of the day but ended up anyway. ‘I love you Mom, Happy Anniversary!’ I wish things were different, obviously + my heart goes out to Terry, especially on a day like today!!…**Along w/ YOU ofcourse!

  3. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    **My brother (Kenny Price, Elaine’s son!)- found a PERFECT song to describe this ‘situation’- if you get a chance listen to it. Beautiful!! It’s by Alan Jackson (who she liked) and it’s on his good time cd it’s called ‘Sissy’s song’ (it should be Elaine M. Merritt’s song too 🙁 …)

  4. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    *How does someone SO young -who does NOT smoke or drink EVER, ate right -just die??! Never gets to get old?! Even begin to. Such a SWEET YOUNG woman -that’s NOT right! I see all these Grandma’s who look like Grandma’s -& it hurts because my Mom/ my kids Grandma did not look like (because she was still SO many yrs. off still from being your typical ‘Grandma’) -‘Grandma’ -she could’ve, should’ve and would’ve someday. She LOVED being a Grandma too. I know she would’ve enjoyed being one to my brother Kenny’s future children too. She was THE BEST Mom! And Grandma there will ever be…Too bad my Mom couldn’t be like all these other Grandma’s or Mother’s that are still ticking after many MANY more yrs. my Mother will never get to see. She would’ve made all our lives so much brighter and happier having her in it…

  5. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    *I feel so LOST w/out my Mom ‘here.’ I’ve been taken off track. I’m not sure how to get back on. But I am trying. For me. For her. She’d want me to. She DOES want me to. It’s just so hard w/out my ‘rock.’ I don’t just say she was my bestfriend to sound ‘cute’, she REALLY was. My FAVORITE person!!(along w/ my little one’s, but they are ‘little people’, for now 🙂 )…I miss her SO much and REALLY can NOT believe this is real!

  6. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    2 mos. ago today was Christmas. The 3rd picture on here is her @ my house- my 6 year old son had taken the picture w/ his new camera. I remembered I told her that she looked so pretty that day. She did. She was ‘glowing’. How can 2 mos. later she have been gone (2wks. tonight)- out of nowhere? 1mos. 1/2 after this beautiful picture was taken of the most beautiful woman I’ll ever know, by her grandson?? HOW??! I’ll never understand any of this!

  7. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    3 wks. ago tonight was when I found my Mom. I try to continue on my journey through life w/out my Mom but it’s REAL hard. My hearts SO heavy & broken- never like this before, even close- & w/ all this pain- had my Mom been here- she’d have been the only one person who could make everything ok (or atleast better), somehow. Listening, giving good advice, something, maybe even just the best hug I could ever get from anyone! Now for maybe the next 40 yr.s(?) I have to live a life w/out my bestest friend & my Mother-in 1. I don’t quite know how. I feel such a void in my simple little life that was so full of EVERYTHING before. (My Mom being one of the #1 things before- rather in person or on the phone- just ‘here’ in my life.) Everyday does not get better & I don’t know how to stop the pain. I’m so lost w/out her. Why does this have to be real??!

  8. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    54 years ago today you were born. And the world became a MUCH brighter place. Who would’ve thought just 54 years later you’d have come and gone already? It’s sad. SO very sad, you’re gone ALREADY. But you were a little girl. Then a lady. A Mommy. A wife. And SO much more. You had me + Kenny and we’re having/had kids because of you! You live on in all of us. You will continue to. And one by one we will all join you again. Once we are called home. Needless to say, again and again… ‘A VERY Happy Birthday to a true gift from God!’ (If you were not born 54 yrs. ago today there would be no Kenny or me. No Hunter or Samantha. And no Lainee on her way. And possible others someday. SO it hurts like heck that you are not here w/ us, but someday we will all be together again. FOREVER. And all we can do is be thankful for the time on earth we did have together. And got to know you. *What a TRUE and GENUINE GOOD person you TRULY were. Heart of gold. The BEST anyone could be!! THE BEST! We WILL be together again.) ‘Happy Birthday Mom! I LOVE you SO much!’…

  9. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    All the ‘times’ -minutes & hours & YEARS may go by, but my heart knows nothing of time… Conversations, meetings and holidays -everything -we’ll never have -I miss that! I miss her. I miss all of it!! And will continue to FOREVER… I miss it for me, yeah. **But I also miss it for her!

  10. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Bought a cd today. I like these guys. Good voice. Heard this song before but not really listening to the words. Describes me w/ this situation pretty well. W/ all the things I’ve been saying, especially recently about being broken and all. I didn’t know there was this song ‘right there.’ -Lifehouse :Broken*

  11. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Each day that goes by hurts that much more. Each day that goes by makes the reality of this all that much more real.

  12. Kenny Price on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM! Not exactly the way and place I would like to tell you this. It breaks me heart knowing that today is ONLY your 54th Birthday and that you are not here with us anymore. I would give anything to be able to send you some flowers like last year and more importantly just give you a call to find out how you’ve been doing and tell you how much I love you! I miss you terribly Mom and just can’t believe someone so young and vitally important to so many is gone so early for no other reason than someone upstairs must’ve had bigger plans. I can’t say for a second I think that is fair though…we NEVER even got a warning to see that this sad day where I can’t even call you on your birthday would be EVEN CLOSE to approaching! I LOVE YOU MOM!:(

  13. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Happy Birthday Mom!’ Who would’ve thought you wouldn’t be ‘here’ for your 54th birthday!?? I sure wish I could see you today. Make you a nice dinner + cake. (Give you the BIGGEST hug ever!) Spend some time w/ my favorite lady. -I guess God had bigger plans for you. ‘I miss you Mom! Happy Birthday Sweet Mom!’ My heart aches that ‘this’ is the way it is -but I also do KNOW I WILL see you again. I love you Mom & I hope you enjoy your day w/ your loved ones up there. Especially your Mom + Dad!

  14. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    -‘Happy Easter Mom!’- ‘normally’ it probably would’ve been just you & your man + me & my ‘family’ together, having an Easter ham @ your place? -small gathering but perfect. What I wouldn’t give to have spent today w/ you. Or any other day for that matter.

  15. Kenny Price on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Happy Mother’s Day Mom! Can’t even imagine that this is really how I have to tell you…and unfortunately you probably won’t really get this message. I know you know though. It breaks my heart into a million pieces when I look through old things and can really just try to appreciate all your hard work, attention to detail and most importantly your overwhelming love that you poured into your family. I miss you way too much to even describe and I would give anything to have you here for just a little more time so I could ask you some things about YOU. It still just doesn’t seem even possible that you can be gone! I think about you all the time and it still stops my very breathe because it just doesn’t make sense that I can’t just pick up the phone and give you a call. I LOVE YOU MOM and there was still so much more time we needed to spend together and it will always hurt terribly knowing we can’t do so. I thank God above for blessing me with such a wonderful mother to have in my life for the time you were here. I hope you no longer feel any pain and are enjoying Mother’s day with your Mom. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MOM!

  16. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    -‘Happy Mothers day Mom.’ I do hate this. EVERYDAY. ‘I Love You.’ I will see you again + be w/ you someday. Until then, this is all SO much to handle. I will be talking to you (on a regular basis.) You’re CONSTANTLY on my mind and in my broken heart… (c

  17. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Her feet don’t touch the same ground ours do. She doesn’t breathe the same air we do. That is DISTURBING to me! And cuts like a knife through my already broken heart. I feel SO close to her still, yet SO far away @ the same time. We live in 2 totally different ‘worlds’ right now, and that is HARD for me to comprehend.

  18. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    -I always thought she’d ‘always be there.’ That’s what Mothers do -they’re always there. She still is, I do feel. But it’s not the same, obviously. I just NEVER thought it could ever be like this. -Already. In my life. **In HER life!!…

  19. Kenny Price on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I can’t take credit for finding ‘sissy’s song’ by Alan Jackson. My fiance’s (Katie’s), sister Kelley was listening to her mom’s new cd, came across this and started to cry. She knew she had found the perfect song that may in some way help sooth our troubled hearts. It is PERFECT! Even though it has now been more than a month since the initial shock…it is still impossible to believe. I guess you always take loved ones for granted but losing my mother at such a young age is absolutely heartwrenching! We are carrying our soon to be first born and have found out she is a healthy growing baby girl. We are going to name her Lainee in my mother’s memory. If she cannot meet her wonderful grandmother (who was so proud when she heard the news of us expecting)…she will honor her name:)

  20. Debra Spencer on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I had the pleasure of working with Elaine at RIT. I will always remember her smiling face. Please know that your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

  21. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I hate this life without my Mom in it. It’s just so different. I am not the same. Life is not the same, @ all… Whole different outlook. I feel like a lone soldier. Who must keep truckin’ on for the sake of my kids & I do want to for that, but it’s SO hard to do without her.

  22. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I hate this. I hate the word hate. But how else do you describe ‘this’… -I hate EVERYTHING about ‘this.’ I HATE that my dear sweet Mother is no longer in this world w/ us… I hate that I go to this sad list of the deceased to look up my YOUNG Mother’s name!! -to add entries to try and ‘feel closer’, or something, to my Mother who is no longer here and definitely SHOULD BE!! This is all just SO sad and so UNBELIEVABLE…

  23. Jeffrey Baker on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I just heard about Elaine today through a rather roundabout path. I am very sorry for your family’s loss. As an adjunct faculty member in the Psychology department, I worked with Elaine for six years. She was always helpful and friendly and would often go beyond what was expected answer a question or solve a problem. I will miss her.

  24. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I love it when someone will say: ‘You’re just like your Mother’. Even if it’s something ‘silly’. I AM my Mother’s daughter + I can only hope, someday, I can be 1/2 the truly wonderful lady she was… (And is)

  25. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I may smile and say ‘I’m good’. But I’m not. And neither are some of the others who say they are w/ this. How could we be? We try and convince ourselves, but that’s what it is ‘convincing’. We’re not ok and may never be. -Broken. Very broken. Unfixable even. But yet we ‘run’ broken because that’s how we’re wired I guess. I know I’ll NEVER be the same. How could I be. *She was Precious. She IS Precious… (I hate this.)

  26. Kenny Price on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I miss my mom terribly. It still seems as though it is not reality. She was so young and full of life. It was only two weeks ago today that she was going about her everyday routine. She was the sweetest woman I will ever have the pleasure of knowing and was so fortunate to have her guidance through all of life’s twists and turns. I will never understand why she had to leave so suddenly and will forever miss her.

  27. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I miss my Mom. I can’t believe she’s gone. It doesn’t make sense. My bestfriend. It hurts SO bad. I don’t know what to do w/out her. How to even live. I know I have to though. If not for anything else- for my kids- her grandkids. It’s hard. She was my everything… This doesn’t seem real.

  28. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I really can’t believe my Mom’s ‘stay’ here on earth is over! I did appreciate her when she was here but if I had thought ONCE that ‘this’ could happen, ALREADY, @ this VERY YOUNG age in her seemingly healthy life -I would have appreciated her that much more! I would have ‘rolled the red carpet’ out for that DEAR SWEET woman EVERY chance I had to be lucky enough to be in her presence. And there WOULD HAVE been much more of the visits to be in her presence… It hurts SO much that she is gone! I wish that I ‘got’ ‘life and death’ before and had spent more time w/ my dear sweet Mom while I was lucky enough to have her here. I miss her SO much…

  29. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I still can NOT believe the HARSH reality of all of this. The disbelief I can’t help but feel that this is truly REAL, how could it be??! It’s truly heartbreaking, DEVASTATING. I don’t know that I’ll ever really ‘get this.’ *None of it makes sense!!…

  30. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I still can’t believe she’s gone! *I STILL CAN’T BELIEVE SHE’S GONE!!

  31. Kenny Price on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I still can’t believe this to be true. In no way in my wildest nightmares would I EVER have figured this to be a possibility @ this EARLY stage in my life…more importantly hers! It literally takes my breathe away EVERYTIME I think of my beautiful young mother and the harsh reality that she is gone… and knowing I can’t just give her a call and fill her in on new things going on in my life…that she would’ve been so happy about…or just to make some plans for our next visit:( It doesn’t even seem POSSIBLE that this COULD be true! It is so hard trying to adjust life back to ‘normal’. I try to keep busy but I just NEVER realized just how much my mom meant to me until it was too late. All the little things talked about that seemed so frivilous @ the time now are just constant reminders of just HOW MUCH this woman meant to me…the IMPACT she had on my life and how cheated I feel for me and her that she is gone. I honestly can’t believe that I will not see my mother, smiling with pride and joy holding my future baby girl.

  32. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I still can’t COMPREHEND I can’t EVER: hug her. Look @ her sweet, young face. HEAR her voice talking to me. Be w/ her in the same room. -while I live on this earth, ever again. Someday, just not while I’m here. I DO want to be here for awhile yet. It’s just unfathomable it’s going to be w/out my Mom. My bestfriend. I can’t understand that. For HER. For me. 🙁 It’s hard.

  33. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I try & ‘keep moving’ w/ my kids + such. @ lunch, reading them a book, everyday things- not the same. I’m not ‘myself’ @ all anymore. How could I be w/ such a major part of my life ‘missing’. But yet- I have to keep trucking somehow because she’d want me to + you never know when it’ll be your turn. You just disappear. Like she. How does that feel for my poor Mom!?? Poof & you’re gone- right in the MIDDLE of her life! Poor SWEET Mom!! She’s ALL I think about/ dream about-CONSTANTLY on my brain + in my broken heart…Missing her terribly-

  34. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I try to look for comfort in others. What else am I going to do?! -Although others try + are nice -NO-1 comes close to what I need. I’m not trying to ‘replace’ my Mom (NO-ONE EVER could!!) -just get through this. It’s hard. Real hard. I was a strong person. Not so much anymore. Weak. Very weak w/ all of this. I’m a wreck. I’m trying. I DON’T want to die of a broken heart. Not now. I got my darlings. She would not want that either!! Out of all the people, why her??!…

  35. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I was always so proud of my Mom, ALWAYS… She’d show up @ a soccer game for the kids or we’d be @ a country concert for Dierks Bentley together, just me & her (looking like my sister) + I was so proud of my young ‘hot mama.’ -It was fun ‘showing her off.’ She was ‘my girl.’ She was alot of fun to be around!! Sweet young lady. I was just beginning to understand just how close we were. ‘Always my Mother, now too my friend.’ -Always was an EXCELLENT Mother! -She was also always my friend -but being a woman now w/ kids + all -we were @ another chapter in life together that would have just grown + grown. So close yet so far away from being so much closer w/ more + more in common everyday. Could relate more. Was finally beginning to understand just what that wonderful wonderful woman really meant to me -EVERYTHING… I do feel so lost w/out her here. Her Motherly advice. Her guidance. Her!! Life is not as ‘beautiful’ as it once was w/ her in it. Not for me. There’s such a huge part ‘missing.’

  36. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I’d like to call my Mom. See what she’s doing. What she’s been up to. What she’s doing this weekend. Maybe next weekend would be better for her. Go see her. -No. Never again. Not in this lifetime anyway. -I will see her again. I do believe! It’s just this time apart is tearing me up. I do feel SO lost without her. Not my true self. Not @ all. BROKEN –

  37. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    I’m having such a hard time w/ this!! I feel helpless. I’m trying to ‘get a grip’ -but I can’t. I try to keep busy but the pain is always there… I still don’t sleep and ALL I think about is her. I miss her SO much & it hurts SO bad, so bad!! 🙁 …

  38. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    It breaks my heart every time I go to this ‘visitation’. My MOM’S name is on here w/ all the elderly. -She NEVER got to get to!! Anyway, my entry was going to just say: FOREVER LOVE, by Reba. Another very nice song that makes me think of my Mom. No, we’re not a ‘couple’ (I get that) but there definitely was a bond (and there still is). I’ll FOREVER love my Mom. And she’ll FOREVER love me. And someday we’ll ALL be together again…

  39. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Just wanted to clear up ‘obsession’ -w/ my Mom it would’ve been something cute like -she had to get me ALL the strawberry shortcake dolls in the collection, where as my Aunt (my Mom’s sister) would only get like 2 of the dolls for her daughter (like most people would 🙂 ) , my Aunt had recently told me. I bought my daughter, who’s 5, this one whole barbie collection (new) you couldn’t even buy in the store because it was from a few yrs. ago. But I wanted it for her, ‘all the dolls’ just like my Mom did for us :). Kenny too -HeMan -ALL the figures, castle and all. So, that’s what I mean by obsession w/ my Mom. Cute, sweet ‘obsessions’. Cabbage patch kids -I had 1 of each kind. She’d wait until stores opened up searching for them! I had a cornsilk, a premie, an ‘original haired’ and a newborn. And ofcourse they were all cute, she would only buy ‘good stuff’ ,very percise in what she was looking for. (I still have them.) She just wanted to give us everything she could. She never bought herself much. She always loved us selflessly. If she thought it would make us happy -she’d do it. She was the BEST! She STILL is…

  40. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Life is just seconds of eternity, right?!! It’s just hard to get from point A to point B without your Mom in your life. And for no seemingly good reason. One second she’s great & the next gone. Suddenly. Sweet dear Mom. So undeserving of this.

  41. rick bryant & sean henderson on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    may god bless you and keep you…the guys next door…@141

  42. George and Sandy Hansen on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    May God minister to the family.

  43. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    MEMORIES -‘Thank God for memories.’ *Precious memories. Too bad that’s all we have to work w/ @ this point in our/HER young lives… Who would’ve thought.

  44. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Mom was pure. Honest. True. NEVER told a lie. Couldn’t. Wouldn’t. People like her are few and far between. Yet, The ‘good ones’ go 1st?!! She ‘deserved’ life more than anyone I know. Maybe that’s why -God had a more ‘proper’ place for her. ‘Amongst the angels’. And if we prove ourselves good -we get ‘rewarded’ too someday -w/ her. In Heaven. (I still don’t know why it couldn’t be 20yrs. later! 10, 5 -I’d take anything ((w/ a warning would have been nice)) -but it is what it is. Maybe someday, when we get there, we’ll understand the why. Until then we should ‘believe’ because it has to be, it just HAS TO BE…)

  45. Kirsten Condry on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    My deepest condolences to the family for the sudden and unexpected loss of Elaine. As a new professor in the psychology department at RIT, I only knew Elaine briefly, but I relied on her heavily. Elaine had a depth of wisdom and knowledge about the inner workings of RIT, and took so much of her job in stride. I always knew I could count on her for the answer to an obscure question or an understanding of how things have always been done. She was popular among the students, many of whom have mentioned to me how helpful and knowledgeable she was, and how strange it feels that she is gone. We are all saddened and disoriented by her loss. My best wishes to all of you, and especially her grandchildren, who were always proudly displayed in beautiful photographs in Elaine’s office.

  46. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    My Mom was DEFINITELY my bestfriend, by FAR… I wish I was atleast 1/2 the friend to her she was to me. I wish I had paid attention atleast 1/2 as close to her as she did to me & MAYBE I would have been able to ‘fix her’ -had I known she needed ‘fixin’ ‘… I had no idea! It was always ‘blah, blah, blah’ about me + she’d just smile & want to hear more about ‘my nonsense’ (-in so many ways) -because it was about me, her daughter.**When SHE should’ve been talking + me listening intently (like she did) and then I could have POSSIBLY saved my bestfriend?!! I guess I wasn’t ‘mature’ enough yet??! *Should’ve. Could’ve. Would’ve… 🙁 **

  47. Mrs. Mary (Lombino) Shadders on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    My thoughts and prayers are with Elaine’s family, especially with Kari and Kenny, whom I’ve known all of my life. I have many fond memories of your mom…hold on to your happy memories.They will see you through this very difficult time. With deepest sympathy, Mary (Lombino) Shadders

  48. Joyce Hastings Colucci on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    My thoughts and prayers go out to Elaines family. Thinking about Elaine brings back fond childhood memories of long summer days roller skating around the neighborhood and over to the playground. Swimming in the pool, playing with Barbie dolls and many board games and lots of fun times. Your old next door neighbor – Joyce

  49. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Ofcourse there will be others someday ‘from you’. My kids kids. Kenny’s kids kids. Our kids kids kids…, etc. Anyway, I DON’T agree w/ ‘this’ either. But what choice do we have?! ‘This’ ISN’T fair, not ONE bit. But what can we do??! I don’t understand why ‘now’. Everything was coming together for a wonderful woman who didn’t always have it so easy. Finally happiness. I try to believe, and do but it DOESN’T make sense. Life doesn’t make sense. And can hurt more than ANYTHING. You’re VERY missed today, as w/ anyday. EVERYDAY! I LOVE YOU Mom and hope you’re having a good birthday.

  50. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Role Model: -People may joke, in a cute way, about funny things I may do like my Mom. I do love that. ANY way I’m like her is GREAT. Even if it’s silly or funny or an ‘obsession’ : ) – others may see it more than we do (or would have 🙁 ) -there’s NOTHING about her that was bad so -great. She was (IS) my ROLE MODEL. Anything I do or act ‘like her’ is GREAT by me + I love to hear it. *It’s the ‘her’ in me that’s somehow keeping me going.

  51. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Sometimes you don’t truly know how good you got it until it’s gone. Having my Mom in this life w/ us was simply wonderful. -‘The sweetness that gave life completeness.’ Now life is not as wonderful as it once was 🙁 -Who knew?! I sure did not! Someone -you just assumed would be there whenever, could be taken away whenever too and did! -I NEVER thought that, never 🙁 ‘Life’ teaches us this lesson (life and death) in such a horrible way w/ such a HUGE part of our life ending. *I get now that life is precious + nothing is guarantied. I just wish my Mother wasn’t my lesson. Because w/ a lesson like this -my Mother would have been one of those I WOULD HAVE been so much more thankful for having still. And ‘hugged more tightly’ w/ each visit that there would have been much more frequent of… But no. NOW I’ve learned, and now it’s too late. Why her? Why now? Why my bestfriend? I still needed her. The best was yet to be. We were ‘buddies.’ Yet I respected her as my Mother, my dear sweet Mother also. It still hurts SO bad and she is still ALL I think about constantly.

  52. Mike & Cindy Mull on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Terry & Family, So sorry for your loss. Although we hadn’t seen much of either of you in a while, I remember the first time we met while camping. She always had a smile on her face and was very sincere. I will hold those memories close to my heart. Take one day at a time. You are in our thoughts & prayers. Mike & Cindy

  53. Mr. & Mrs. James VanGelder on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Terry and family, So sorry for your loss. May you rely on that precious love now to help see you through this time. She is not dead – she is just away.

  54. Diann Feeley on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Terry- I cannot imagine this loss for you and for all who knew Elaine. I met Elaine before she was Mrs. Merritt. We worked around the corner from each other at RIT and I will never forget the many memorable lunches we had together. I reside in Florida now but got to see Elaine last when I visited her during a recent return to my hometown of Rochester. She was a lovely person and always had a beautiful smile. I remember her telling me of the hikes and fun trips you both shared together. I’m sure God is welcoming her for she was a lovely person. Her RIT co-workers and RIT community will sorely miss her. with sympathy, Diann Feeley

  55. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    The song I feel my Mom is singing to me (and my brother Kenny) ,when we are looking for comfort, is by Reba: YOU’RE GONNA BE – (I had bought her this cd and one for myself a time ago, only because Reba’s great and we both liked her.) My Mom’s kinda like talking to us through this one. -‘life’s not fair, you’ll always be loved by me’ -‘life has no guaranties’ -‘someone’s EVERYTHING!’ (-that she was and someday maybe my little one’s will feel that same way, like I definatley do about my Mom!!) She’s so FAR away 🙁 but I do feel her, constantly… **I STILL can NOT believe she’s not a phone call away from making plans to see her, hug her, look @ her beautiful face and share this ‘life’ w/!!

  56. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Today was a challenge, as w/ any day. I see the sun set on a world she is no longer in and it hurts, so deep.- ALL of this hurts. What bothers me the most (obviously besides the fact she’s gone!!) -is WHY? It does NOT make sense!! And I don’t know how to ‘fix this’. Probably because it can’t and won’t ever be ‘fixed’. She’s gone. I don’t get that…??

  57. Katie Salter on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Two weeks ago today would turn into a very awful, awful night. Little did anyone know that she was already with God. She is missed tremendously and I’m quite positive the shock of this all will never fade. Elaine was such a beautiful person inside and out and I’m sure that God is enoying her presence up in Heaven! I will always remember her smile and the love that she had for her family. You will forever be remembered, missed, loved and spoken about.

  58. Millie Alverio on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Very nice lady, and I will be praying for this family. God bless you!

  59. Debby Lembo Ayer on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    What a fun person Elaine was. We met at camp when we were about 10 and became instant friends. We had a blast climbing the tree in my back yard, jumping out of it and chasing my dog Wag. We constantly challenged each other with endless chess games and mastered riding our bikes without touching the handlebars all the way home from the play ground. I remember the hilarious songs she would make up whenever she rode her bike. Rest in peace Elaine, you made me laugh so often.

  60. Kari Leach on September 28, 2012 at 12:00 am

    Yes, I am sad about all this for myself. **But HER too!! This is still such a ‘shocker.’ Someone SO young. Took GOOD care of herself. Never smoked or drank. Maybe A glass of wine @ Christmas or something ‘special’, but NEVER smoked or did a bad thing to herself or to anyone, ever! Was also such a GOOD person. SO sweet. Such a treasure for anyone who was lucky enough to have known her. Why someone like her??! Why?? I don’t understand and it doesn’t make any sense. I’m sorry to keep complaining but how can I not??! She’s gone and it’s not right! It’s just not right.

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