Virginia F. Van Ingen

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Greece: Virginia F. Van Ingen, age 100, went to be with the Lord on April 8, 2019, surrounded by her family. She is predeceased by her husband, the Hon. Jack Van Ingen, and son Russell. She is survived by her cousins Nancy (Don) Curran, Colleen (Alan) Campbell, and step children Lane (Brenda) Van Ingen, Connie (Kerim) Babaoglo, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. Virginia lived life to the fullest! She loved going new places and meeting new people. If you knew Virginia, she thought you were either wonderful or beautiful! Her kind heart and compassion drew people to her, and we were better off knowing her. Her husband was a judge in the Town of Webster; he was often referred to as “the marrying Judge.” Virginia and Jack were a great team and the thousands of couples whose marriage ceremonies they officiated still tell their stories today of their great wedding experiences. Virginia lived at the Villages at Unity for over 20 years and loved every moment of it. With all of the social opportunities the Villages offered, Virginia was busy making many friends with the residents as well as the employees. Virginia’s visitation will be held Saturday, April 20th 10-11 AM at Vay-Schleich & Meeson, 1075 Long Pond Rd. where her celebration of life will follow at 11:00 AM in the chapel of the funeral home. Interment, Webster Union Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to First Bible Baptist Church, 990 Manitou Rd, Hilton, NY 14468. For more information and to sign her online guestbook, visit Knowing she trusted Jesus Christ as her Savior, we have great peace knowing she is with the Lord where her life really begins. We love you and miss you Virginia, and look forward to seeing you again.

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  1. What a wonderful grandmother Virginia was. She was a beautiful person in every way, and will truly be missed.

  2. I was one of the Judges nurses at RGH when he was on dialysis. So sorry to see this. They were such a delight. She was just the sweetest women I ever met. I alway sang the song “ Meet Virginia “ they both loved it. Both devoted to each other. True love story. RIp Virginia ❤️

  3. Sorry to hear of your loss. Such a great lady. We were married by Judge Van Ingen 20 years ago. Virginia made me feel so comfortable having bridal jitters before the ceremony. They joined us at our reception at Hedges near by.
    A lovely couple.

  4. Virginia was my wonderful customer at Estée Lauder for many years. Her beautiful smile and laughter always brightend my day. May you Rest In Peace. Love, Susan

  5. Ginny, Bill and I will never forget the times we spent together with you and Jack in Webster, Alexandria Bay and the Florida Keys. Working together as Jack’s clerks, late night hot dog stops at our home after an outing you and Jack had attended, family dinners with our parents, family and friends, etc.. there were so many wonderful times I can’t list them all. We grew close – we were family. Those memories we will forever hold in our hearts dear loved ones. We were blessed to have you in our lives and loved every minute of it. Till we meet again our Ginny. We love you.

  6. Grandma Virginia was a truly wonderful person and a bright ray of sunshine to anyone she would meet . What a blessing a God gave our family to have her as part of our family! Till we meet again in heaven !

  7. I was lucky enough to have two wonderful husbands in my life, and both times we were married by Judge Van Ingen at their residence on Lake Road!!! Of course Mrs. Van Ingen was there, taking pictures, and helping the Judge to officiate! She was such a happy soul! Always smiling! So sorry to hear of her passing, but I know she is smiling down from heaven reunited with the Judge! God bless them both!

  8. Virginia and Russel were our neighbors in East Rochester, NY. I grew up playing in Russel’s back yard until they moved away. I was re-acquainted with Virginia some 20 years ago at the Highlands. We became instant friends and family. I was so blessed to be able visit Virginia. She knew me as I grew up and could share thing about me and my Mom. My favorite line from Virginia ‘ I just wake up happy every day’. You will be missed Virginia.

  9. Saddened by the news of my dear friend passing. She’s now with Jack and Russ. God rest her soul. I’m sorry I’m out of town. My thoughts are with you.

  10. Sympathy from the family of the other ‘Marrying Judge’, When Jack couldn’t do a wedding Judge Gaudioso did it and Jack did them for Joe. I remember Virginai well. A lovely lady. My mother also enjoyed Virginia. They both made others comfortable during many weddings in their homes and at other locations.. They were fine ladies and fine men. Now they all meet again.

  11. Virginia was one of a kind her smile was everything I look forward to seeing that everyday I came to work, she was always pleasant and happy gave me a kiss and hug everyday I came to work, I enjoyed listening to her life stories all the traveling she did and places she visited,she was such a beautiful soul I will missed that. I’m happy I get to met her

  12. Virginia, was the best lady here! she always made my day coming to work worth it. her smile and laughter brought joy to my heart, I fell in love with her personality! I will miss you so much. love you!

  13. Our family has been so blessed to know Virginia. She filled my Dad, Jack O’Brien’s last years with joy and laughter, and held his hand as he passed from this life. She has remained a dear friend during the subsequent years, always interested in the family and the new grand-babies. We will miss our visits and her delight whenever she saw us. May she rest in peace

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