sally a.bour
Greece: Tuesday, January 24, 2012. Survived by her loving, devoted husband of 58 years, Eugene R. Bour; children, Donna (Trevor) Bour-Purdy, Charles (Daria) Bour, Sandy (Kirk) Leister, Tim (Donna) Bour, Judy (Mark) Taylor; grandchildren, Christopher Purdy, Ann Marie Purdy, Charlie Bour, Kyle Bour, Nathan Leister, Kristen Leister, Jonathan Leister, Stephanie (fiancée David Broussard) Bour, Jenny Bour, Melissa Bour, Ian Taylor, Alison Taylor; brothers, Donald (Gwen) Mandeville, Raymond (Olga) Mandeville, William Mandeville; sisters-in-law, Jane Bour, Mildred Mandeville; loving dog Patrick, many dear nieces, nephews, friends. Sally was a lifetime member of Barnard Fire Department Ladies Auxiliary, a teacher's aide at 42 School, a devoted member of Bethany Presbyterian Church. She loved spending her time with her husband, children and grandchildren and will be sadly missed by all. Friends may call Friday, January 27, 2012, 2-4 & 6-8 at the Vay-Schleich & Meeson Funeral Home, 1075 Long Pond Road, Rochester, NY 14626. Her Funeral Service will be held Saturday, January 28, 2012, 10 AM at Bethany Presbyterian Church, 3000 Dewey Avenue. Entombment will be held privately. In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made in Sally's memory to Barnard Fire Department Ladies Auxiliary, 3084 Dewey Avenue, Rochester, NY 14616 or to Bethany Presbyterian Church 3000 Dewey Avenue, Rochester, NY 14616.

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  1. chuck i just wanted to express my condolences to you and your family. stay strong as a family as your mom would have wanted.

  2. Chuck, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time. May her memory be eternal.

  3. Dear Aunt Sally, Thank you for your laughter and your loving heart. Glad we got a chance to see you recently-it meant a lot to us! With Love – Janet and Jon

  4. Dear Bour family, I worked with Sally in the #42 school lunchroom & was greatly saddened to hear of your loss. We had a lot of fun back then & I actually ran into her a few months back & we laughed about our adventures at school. Having her as a co-worker made even the bad days more enjoyable. My thoughts & prayers are with you.

  5. Dear Bour Family, John and I send you our heartfelt condolences on the loss of your wonderful mother, Sally. It was a great pleaure to know her and to know all of you. Your are in our prayers.
    Audrey and John Blocchi

  6. Dear Chuck and Daria along with all your family members: I was sad to hear of your families loss, it’s always hard to lose a family member but it seems especially hard to lose a mom. I’m sure she will be greatly missed by all who knew her and her family. My thought and prayers are with your family during this hard time. My God Bless your family

  7. Dear Gene and Family – We are very sad to hear of Sally’s passing. We have never known a nicer lady. We will always have fond memories of Sally and Gene from our many fire service gatherings. Rest is pease kind and gracious lady.

  8. Dear Gene and family,
    The passing of Sally marks the end of a wonderful lady. It also marks the end of a great team; the team of Sally and Gene. I first met Sally many years ago while attending NYS Fire Chiefs conventions. She and ‘The Chief’ were among the most admired couples. Her humor and genuine friendliness became her trademark. Sally’s devotion to her husband of 58 years, her love of family and her beloved Barnard FD Ladies Auxiliary set the bar pretty high for the rest of us. Rest easy dear Sally. Your smile and life will be remembered forever by all that you touched along the way.

  9. Dear Gene, By chance I saw the Obit. ,and I would like to express my sympathy to you and your family. As I am married 52 years I know you feel a deep loss. Bob Buckley,KY

  10. Dear Gene, Tim and Family,
    We are so very sorry for the loss of your dear Wife and Mother. She now rests peacefully in the Arms of Jesus.

  11. Dear Grandma; thanks for just being you-the best wife, mother and grandmother possible. Thanks especially for always making us laugh and treating the ‘outlaws’ like your very own family. We will never forget you. Love you, Daria

  12. Donna, Trevor & family,

    We are so sorry to hear of your Mom’s death. It is so difficult to say goodbye to a parent. Know that you were loved and that you had the honor and priviledge of having a mother that loved and adored you. That will never go away. Keep the faith that she is in a better place , she is happy and you will be reunited with her some day. Prayers are with all of you. Love, Rick & Sue

  13. Donna, Trevor & Family:
    We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Losing your mother is difficult but you will have wonderful memories that will last forever. All our love and deepest sympathy.

  14. Gene – My mother and I are so sad when we learned of Sallys passing. Our prayers are with you and your family. Loretta Gillan
    Frances Maynard

  15. Gene & Family, I was so sorry to hear of Sally’s passing. She was a true friend of which I will never forget the times we sat and chatted over coffee. I also hold high her suggesations when I needed them about something. We had a lot of laughs but knew when you were troubled you could depend on Sally to be there for you. Friends like that are hard to find. All the good times we had in the auxiliary will be treasured memories for me. Just remember she will always be there shining down on you and guiding you. She is a very special angel watching over us. God Bless all of you. You are in my thiughts and prayers. Carol Bowers

  16. Gene and family, Sorry to hear of Sally’s passing. We are thinking of you and the family. Pete and Velma Steele

  17. Gene and Family, Our sincerest sympathy to all of you on the loss of your devoted wife and Mother. We know how much she will be missed by all of you. Just remember all the wonderful times you had together. She was so proud of all her family. She was a very SPECIAL LADY. Wish we were there to give everyone a big hug.

  18. Gene, our prayers are with you. Been a long time since we’ve seen you and Sally, We left Rochester 16 years ago and loosing track of good friends is one of the problems with moving away. Will always remember the good times we had together. Love, Bruce & Helen

  19. Gene, you and Sally took us in and treated us like family when we moved in next to you. Sally was a wonderful person that could light up your day with her smile. We’re sorry for your loss. If there is anything you need don’t hesitate to call or come over. Our thoughts are with you Love Brad, Cindy & Brook

  20. Gene,and Family
    It is with deep sorrow that we feel with the passing of your wife and mother we will always remember her great smile and humor . We send our sympathie and prayers to you all.
    Sincerely Bill & Noreen

  21. I am so sorry to hear of Mrs. Bour’s passing. I remember at #42 school she was the adult that walked my class back from lunch and I always got a hug. When she and my Mom would have coffee I would play with Mitsy. My thoughts are with all of you.

  22. I liked Sally Bour. I knew her a little as I was growing up but only through my parents. When I had an opportunity to do remodeling work for Sally & Gene over the years I had more contract with her, we shared many a cup of coffee in her kitchen and she always so interested in me and how may family was doing. She really listened after she asked me a question which isn’t something everyone does these days. We talked about Barnard FD as she had alot of memories of all the families that my family grew up with @ Barnanrd and it was fun for me to remember some of those through Sally Bour’s eyes. I am not telling her family anything they aren’t aware of, she was always a nice person to me over the years & always enjoyed talking with her over coffee.

    Dale Meier

  23. I remember Sally so fondly. We worked together at School 42 years ago. She was always so gracious and was well-liked by everyone.. She touched the lives of many children in a positive way. We laughed about the time we ran into each other on a street corner in Las Vegas near the Excalibar Hotel while on vacation. Neither of us knew that the other one was going to be there! Sally was a great role model and many shall remember her.

  24. Mom,
    You were a kind and gentle listener who never judged,but always provided loving encouragement to all of us. We love you very much

  25. Mr. Bour and Family, We am so sorry for the passing of your wife and mother we will always remember her great smile. Your Mom was a very special lady and we enjoyed growing up with all of you on Almay Road. She will live on in everyone’s hearts! Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you!!

  26. Mrs. Bour I will never forget the countless times you came over to play cards with my grandparents. You were my Grandmas best friend and was always there for her. Thank you for being the wonderful lady you were.

  27. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Thank-you for sharing such a special person with us. Our 2nd mom will always be in our hearts forever. Don’t worry mom,mark will make sure the yard is kept up to your standards always. Thank-you for the memories and laughs through-out the years. I will miss my call on Pearl Harbor Day, but will have a Jack Daniels on us. Love you, Mark and Linda

  28. Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss’¦our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
    The sorrow of the faithful
    is not that of permanent loss,
    but the tender sense of sadness
    that comes in saying good-bye for now
    to someone we love.
    May today’s sorrow give way
    to the peace and
    comfort of God’s love.

    Rick, Jennifer, Joy, Kristen and Kristen

  29. Sally,
    You will be greatly missed and I know you are now with my grandparents and looking down on us. We love you
    Julie and Aaron

  30. To Mrs. Bour from Mrs. Moore: I will miss my good friend but will remember all the good times we shared together RIP my good friend. You deserve it after struggling for so many months. I’ll always keep you in my thoughts and prayers. All my love to a kind and considerate FRIEND!!!

  31. We are so sorry for your loss- You both have been such a big part of the Barnard family. Please know that you and you family are in our thoughts.
    Hold on to all the great memories you made through the years-

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