October 1, 1949 ~ June 13, 2021

Born in: Downsville, NY
Resided in: Rochester, NY

Rochester: June 13, 2021 at age 71 Jesus welcomed Matthew into heaven.

Our family is deeply saddened at our loss, but we rejoice that he is in the arms of Jesus. He is now secure with the Lord, healthy, whole and free!

He is survived by his loving wife of 25 years, Patty; children, Brian Miller, Andrew (Alma) Miller; grandsons Daniel and Jeremiah; brothers Michael (Cecilia) Lanzoni, Anthony (Mary) Lanzoni.

Matthew was a proud veteran of the United States Air Force and served during the Vietnam conflict.  He was a dedicated substance abuse counselor for over 30 years and, as such, influenced the lives of many. He was an active member of First Bible Baptist Church and began, with the help of others, the Healing Journey Ministry.  He enjoyed playing golf, rooting for the Buffalo Bills but most of all attending his grandsons’ sporting events and school activities.  The title he valued most was given to him by his grandsons, “Pop-pop.” He always radiated happiness with a smile and kind words.  He will be greatly missed by his friends and family.

A life so beautifully lived deserves to be beautifully remembered. Please join us to celebrate Matthew’s life on Thursday, July 8th at 11:00 AM at First Bible Baptist Church, 990 Manitou Rd., Hilton, N.Y.  We appreciate your love and prayers!

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Salvation Army in his memory.

Matthew 25:23 “His lord said unto him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant… Enter thou into the joy of thy lord.”


Service: Thursday July 8, 2021 11:00 AM

First Bible Baptist Church
990 Manitou Road
Hilton , NY 14468

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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Matthew S. Lanzoni 's name.

The Salvation Army, Rochester Area Services

70 Liberty Pole Way, Rochester, NY 14604

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  1. Dear Patty and family,
    When I think of Matthew I think of his warm loving hug every time he greeted you! He was an engaging warm person who was always fun to be with! I pray he is now at peace and sending his strength and love to all and watching over us.
    My thoughts and prayers are with Matthew and your family.
    Dave Memmel

  2. This is poem I wrote in Matthew’s last days. His kindness was as vibrant. His love for humanity was immense. Matthew is missed but I’m blessed to have met this amazing man of God.


    I couldn’t understand
    what he said
    His voice was hardly audible

    So, I placed my hand on his shoulder and prayed
    Afterwards he reached towards my hand and clasped it like my father used to

    There we were, two grown men clasping hands on a hospital bed and then…
    With all his might he pulled my hand across his chest to his mouth and kissed it

    No words were exchanged
    But oh my goodness
    What an inspirational moment
    What an honor

    He communicated without words
    And spoke his heart through a kiss to a friend

    Then and there
    I received good will
    A Thank you
    And Brotherly love

    In the midst of all the people
    I visit on a daily basis, this hidden treasure encourages me to continue my work as a chaplain

    He had such a dear heart
    And I was so blessed

  3. Dear family,
    I met Matt in 1982 and stayed in touch periodically over the years. His wonderful smile and so positive attitude inspired me to contiue spreading good will and hope to others. I will miss him and know he is at peace and still in his passing continues to bring love and joy to others,
    God bless you in this time of loss.
    Pete Rich

  4. Matthew has been the kindest and most loving man we have ever known. He always welcomed us with open arms and a warm hug. We have so many memories of our times together at home, at Cape Vincent and in Florida. We never heard Matthew say a harsh work and he was always so thankful for even the smallest gesture. These memories and more are fresh in our hearts and minds. Matthew’s long hug at the beach was our good-bye and we blew kisses to one another sending them with our hands. We love you, Matthew. Dearest friend, Patty, you and your family are in our hearts. May God bless each of you with peace and the Joy of Matthew’s very being. Our love is with each of you. Tom & Marilyn Ferris

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