August 23, 1927 ~ November 5, 2019

Born in: Kenmore, NY
Resided in: Irondequoit, NY

Mary Joslin Discher
Irondequoit: Mary J. Discher passed from her earthly life to life eternal on November 5, 2019, at age 92. She is survived by her husband of 69 years, Wendell Discher, and her four children, Jocelyn (Bob) Ault, Craig (Judy Chilson), Scott, and Norman (Jennifer) Discher, as well as her seven grandchildren: Taylor and Tory Ault, Falkner, Karl, Tabitha, Marianne and Katherine Discher, and friend Cheryl Pipkin. She is also survived by her brother Norman Joslin and sister Joselyn Watkins. She is predeceased by her sister Elizabeth, brothers-in-law Anson Shupe and Charles Watkins, and sister-in-law Jane Joslin. She has had the joy of being Aunt Mary to many beloved nieces and nephews.
Mary was born in Kenmore, NY and left to attend Kalamazoo College (MI) where she met Wendell. They have lived most of their adult lives in the Rochester, NY area. Mary graduated from college with majors in Religion, Physical Education and Sociology. She has applied all three disciplines in her professional and volunteer lives. Mary was a 65-year member of Bethany Presbyterian Church in Greece, NY. She served the Presbyterian Church (USA) extensively on committees, as an ordained Deacon and Elder and as Moderator for the Genesee Valley Presbytery.
Mary will be remembered for her passionate teaching of the Christian faith and the love she showed to all people. Mary served as a host family for local international college students for many years. Travel and tennis were two of Mary’s personal passions.
A memorial service to celebrate Mary’s life will be held Saturday (Nov 9th) at 3:00 PM at Bethany Presbyterian Church, 3000 Dewey Avenue, Rochester, NY 14616. For those wishing, a memorial contribution can be made in her honor to the music program at Bethany Presbyterian Church or to Church Women United, 644 Titus Avenue, Rochester, NY 14617 in her memory. For more information or to sign Mary’s online guestbook, please visit
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Memorial Service: Saturday November 9, 2019 03:00 PM - Saturday November 9, 2019 03:00 PM

Bethany Presbyterian Church
3000 Dewey Avenue
Rochester, NY 14616

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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Mary Joslin Discher 's name.

The Music Program @ Bethany Presbyterian Church

3000 Dewey Ave Rochester, NY 14616

Church Women United

644 Titus Ave Rochester, NY 14617

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  1. Wendy, This is Bonnie Matthaidess and know you and Mary through Cheryl and our connection at RGH many years ago now. I read Mary’s obituary and want to send my prayers to you and your family. Peace, sweet peace. Bonnie Matthaidess

  2. Wendy, I would love to be with you and your family tomorrow, but will be with you in thoughts and prayers. Mary was my oldest friend as we grew up together, as did our families since the early 1900s. We went to church camp together, had family reunions at our home on Keuka Lake, and our homes were always open to each other’s families. And now, our friendship continues through our daughters who are friends.

  3. Norman and family,
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We have missed seeing your mom at RPO concerts in recent years.
    John and Miriam Ganze

  4. Dear Wendy, Scott and the entire family,
    I have loved you all since I first met each one of you as I was a seminarian in the fall of 1979. When I would return to visit the church, to preach, or to officiate at a wedding, there Mary and Wendy would be with an ever-welcoming smile, and I would know I was home again. I, myself, have been disabled for 29 years, and so I could not return to see you.
    Mary was such a deeply spiritual and loving person. Please know you are all in my prayers. I know I will see Mary’s smile again in the peaceful kingdom, surrounded by the embrace of God.
    I love you all. I would be glad to visit, if you would like me to.
    (Rev.) Mary Lou Worster Anderson

  5. Sending lots of love to Wendy, Jocelyn, Craig, Scott, Norman and your families. I have known Mary (Mrs. Discher) my whole life. She was a special lady and a very dear friend to my family. Wish I could be at her service tomorrow. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Lindsey Ward Spencer

  6. With all our Love and Prayers from your fellow Shipmates @ Bethany.
    A Memorial Gift has been made to the Bethany Music Program in Mary’s name.
    Peace be with you and your Family always …

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