Lena

August 28, 1930 ~ October 17, 2020

Born in: Rochester, NY
Resided in: Irondequoit, NY

Lena DelVecchio (Bellavia)

On October 17, 2020 another angel went to heaven. Our dearly loved Lena DelVecchio (Bellavia) went to rest at age 90.

Lena happily reunited with her predeceased parents Frank and Mary Bellavia and lovingly reconnected with her siblings Vera Hart and Frank Bellavia.

She is survived by her husband of 70 years Patsy, her daughter Patty and son-in-law Rick Scarlata, adored grandchildren Amy and Gerry Blanchard, Matt and Joanne Scarlata and the joys of her life great grandchildren Tyler, Trevor and Kylie. She also leaves behind her brother Al (MaryLou) Bellavia, brother-in-law Donald Hart, nieces, nephews and many friends.

Regretfully, due to Covid pandemic funeral services will be private.

A special heartfelt thank you to the staff on the 5th floor of St. Ann’s Community. Your loving care especially during the last eight months will forever be appreciated.

In lieu of flowers a donation to the Children’s Tumor Foundation, 370 Lexington Ave., Suite 2100 New York, NY 10017 in honor of Joey Chimento would be very much appreciated.

For more information and to sign her on-line guest book, visit www.meesonfamily.com.

 

Dear Mom,

I thought that when this time came I would be prepared. You were 90, you lived a good life and your quality of life had declined. But those are just words because all I care about right now is that I will never see you, hold your hand, hug you or hear your voice again. I know you are in a better place and you are reunited with your Mama, Daddy, Uncle Frank and Aunt Vera that you loved so much. For me there is a forever hole in my heart that will never heal. I have memories and pictures that will keep you close but it’s the “never” that I cannot accept.

These last eight months have been heart wrenching. We should have been able to be by your side and spend time with you but the world can be cruel sometimes and knowing that you were alone so much will haunt me forever. During our last time together you reached for my hand and squeezed it. I know that whatever you felt or thought your love never wavered. Thank you Mom for mustering the strength to give me that last sign of your endless love.

You had many titles but it was your Mom and Gram titles that I learned the most from you. You taught me what it means to love as deeply as you can and to always be there for your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren no matter what the situation. You never let a day go by without a call to make sure we were all OK. That was your life, loving us, taking care of us and worrying about us. We were your whole life and we always came first. Your family and friends were always your top priority. You nurtured every relationship and worked hard to show everyone love.

You made friends easy and kept them forever. Your family and friends were always kept close. If anyone needed anything you were the first to respond. Whether they needed food, comfort, companionship or just to be taken care of. There were many times in your life when you spent days just sitting by a sick family member or friend who needed support. Your heart was filled with gentleness and compassion. I wish that you had felt more of that love returned. But those who loved you and cared surrounded you with a “blanket of love”. You were always prayed for, cared for, showed concern for and absolutely loved by all those that matter. Those people will always have my love and gratitude and love.

In life there are heartbreaks and you certainly faced your share of them. Life was not always easy for you but you managed to find enough strength to carry on. And when others depended on you it was that strength that carried them through. You never made yourself first, you were happy caring for others.

Although you were small in stature your spunk was undeniable. You were nobody’s victim and you stood up to the best of them. And if you were defending someone you loved there was no contest.

Mom, you lived your life with love, loyalty, nurturing and strength. Your care for all of us was endless. I admire every way you lived your life and especially the way you loved and cared for me. My heart will always ache and now I will have to learn to live without you. But you were tired and it was time for you to rest your hardworking body. Your beautiful heart will live on in all of us. You are leaving our homes, our heads and our hearts with precious memories. You will always be loved, forever missed and never be forgotten.

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  1. Dear Patty, Ricky and beautiful family,
    May Lee continue to watch over you from her place of peace and light. We feel privileged to have known her. Our prayers, love and sympathy go out to you all in a huge way.
    With love,
    Joey and Patty

  2. Dearest Patty, Rick, and the entire family,

    I am so sorry about Lena’s passing. In the short amount of time I knew her, you all made me feel like apart of the family, in fact an adopted sister if you will. We had so many great laughs and visits- especially about the tall grass. (would you believe they cut it down last week?!) Lena was an extraordinary lady and I loved dressing in my goofy headbands and sparkles just to see what she would say. We had so much fun visiting and talking about the cars and buses in the parking lot, to listening to the music in the chapel, to swimming, and of course coming down for the visits. I am so lucky beyond belief to have met all of you. I love you alll so much and hope we can continue our friendship. You all are awesome and I love you all soooooooo much. My heartfelt thoughts, prayers, and MANY MANY Hugs are with you today. You already know how much I love you, I don’t have to say but I will! *Wink Wink* I love you sooo much! Please keep in touch.

    All my love, today and every day!
    your buddy forever,
    Kristen

    • Kristen,
      You are our family. We could never express how much we love & appreciate your love & incredible care for Lena. You are an angel sent to this family at a time when we needed it the most. Just the thought of her being without all of us was heartbreaking but knowing you were there was such peace. You are an incredible person with a beautiful heart and we all love you so much. You will always be a part of our family. Thank you from all of us for loving her & spending so much time with Lena during her last months. We are sending a group hug & will continue this wonderful friendship with you.
      With Love from the Scarlata
      & Blanchard Family

  3. Dearest Patty, Rick and your entire family,
    For the time I met your mom, Lena, will be forever in y mind. Just knowing her for that short time, has left an unbelievable image of what an amazing woman she was. Patty, there are no words I can say to you to help your pain. I know because I wish I had my mom and dad here. Everyday gets a little easier but you never forget them. God bless and all our love. Dick and Marilyn

    • Dick & Marilyn,
      Thank you so much for being such wonderful friends. That is what will get me through this. Marilyn, I am so happy you got to meet my Mom. It is so nice that you got to spend time with her. She was so happy for the visit & really loved her sweater. It kept her so warm & it was like a hug coming from you. I appreciate your sweet message & am thankful for our friendship. Love you both.

  4. Patty, Rick and family.
    Patty, your letter to your Mom was a very beautiful and loving tribute. I did not know her but she had to be very special to have raised such a caring and loving daughter. You will never stop missing her but may your heart lighten in time as you remember and cherish all the wonderful memories you have of her. When you love someone so dearly I know, the journey through grief can be slow and painful. Be good and gentle to yourselves as all of you mourn the loss of a wonderful woman. From her, came a legacy of love. Much love to all of you.
    Louise

    • Louise,
      Thank you for your sweet message. I know you know the pain of loss & I will be leaning on you my friend. This is incredibly hard & I know it will take time but right now the finality of it all is heart wrenching. I thank you for always caring, asking about & praying for my Mom. You are a wonderful friend.

  5. Pat and Patty. We are so deeply sorry to hear about Lee’s passing. We have so many fond memories of the good old days. Much love, The Calandra Family.

  6. Patty and Rick and family
    We will miss Aunt Lena but it is comforting to know she is now with her mom and dad ,sister Vera , brother Frank and all
    the rest of her dearly departed family and friends. Rest in peace. She will always be in our hearts. We will have another beautiful loving angel watching over us.
    Much love and our deepest sympathy,
    Kathy and Tracy

    • Kathy & Tracy,
      Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for being there for all of us at a time when we needed you the most. You have & always will be the special family that we will always cherish. We love you both so much. And I know my Mom felt the same way. The only comfort I have right now is that our moms are together & they are watching over our families, as you said. Our Special Angels are together again.

  7. Dear Patty and Rick,

    We want to express our sympathies to both you and your family on the passing of Patty’s mother Lena. We pray that the Lord would comfort you and hold you up in His loving arms.

    With our love, thoughts, and prayers,

    Marlene and David Ranieri

    • Marlene & David,
      Thank you so much for your warm thoughts. You are loving & caring people & it is so comforting to have you both as neighbors. At a time like this, having people like you around us will help us through. We appreciate you thinking of us.

  8. Patty,Rick and family…my our prayers and thoughts are with you at this difficult time. Your mom was a blessing and you truly blessed. Your thoughts were very touching…i lost my mom on Sept 8 and I can relate.we have to keep our memories close in our hearts

    • John & MaryAnn,
      It was so kind of you to leave this comforting message. We certainly have a lot of history together. And so many wonderful memories that we shared as younger kids & into adulthood. Our parents friendship was something that my Mom cherished. She kept so many beautiful pictures of times together. MaryAnn, I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. She was such a sweet lady. You know the pain & I’m not sure how we get through this but I know our families will help. Thank you for your comfort & we extend the same to you.

  9. Dear Pat,
    Don and I were saddened to hear of the loss of Lena. We know you were always at her side for Sunday Mass at St. Ann’s Home. We hope you will find comfort in knowing she is at rest in the arms of The Lord.
    With sympathy and our prayers,
    Faith and Don Keeley

  10. Dear Rick, Patty and Family,
    I am so very sorry about your mom’s passing! its hard for me to believe she was 90 years old. I always remember her as a fun, stylish young mom. We had so many fun times together on McNaughton Street and also on our vacations together. And how can anyone be married
    for 70 years????? I wish you all the best including your dad….I hope hes ok with all of this.
    We still have our buffalo bills to cheer for…somedays good, somedays bad…lol…..I love your whole family and hope we can get together
    sometime in the near future. it must have been especially hard with the Covid. This is killing all of us.
    love you all,
    Lori and family

    • Mike, Lori & family, It is so nice to hear from you. We do have so many wonderful memories together. I was just telling Rick that our porches on McNaughton St. were our meeting place & we spent hours just visiting there. And our vacations, our matching outfits, our Bills games & all our old MPB days. I miss those days. Covid was awful for us because we couldn’t visit with my Mom & it haunts me that she passed away alone. But she is now surrounded by so many people that she loved & missed, including Frank & Helen. They are probably having coffee right now & talking about all the times we spent together laughing & having so much fun. I love all of you & miss you so much. Please stay safe & well. And when this nightmare is over we will make some plans to get together. Thank you for thinking of us. You are always in our hearts.

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