Elaine M.
Greece: Beloved wife, mother, grandmother and sister. Suddenly, Wednesday, February 13, 2008 at age 53. Predeceased by her parents, Carl (Betty) Hansen. She is survived by her husband, Terry L. Merritt; daughter, Kari (John) Leach; son, Kenneth (Katharine Salter) Price; step-daughters, Kimberlie (Daniel) Stowell & Tara (Jeffrey) Sulecki; brother, James (Vicki) Hansen; sister, Jeanne (Frank) Passamonte; 6 grandchildren with one on the way; several nieces and nephews; many friends. Elaine was an Administrative Assistant for RIT. No prior calling. Her Memorial Mass will be celebrated Monday 9 A.M. at St. Charles Borromeo Church, 3003 Dewey Avenue. Interment held at the convenience of family. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to The Humane Society at Lollypop Farm, 99 Victor Road, Fairport NY 14450 in her memory.

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  1. * I still don’t get that she’s really gone. I still waite for the phone to ring. Or anticipate upcoming plans w/ my Mom. My bestfriend in the whole wide world… This really does not seem real, how could it be?! Never in a million yrs. would I have thought ‘this’ possible! Heartbreaking, simply heartbreaking. What do we all do w/out that wonderful WONDERFUL woman in our lives-

  2. **’Happy Anniversary Mom!’ -I thought of you ALL day, as w/ any. Today would have been very special for you + Terry 🙁 I wish I sent him a card, thought about it -but what would I say? Almost didn’t write today because of the day but ended up anyway. ‘I love you Mom, Happy Anniversary!’ I wish things were different, obviously + my heart goes out to Terry, especially on a day like today!!…**Along w/ YOU ofcourse!

  3. **My brother (Kenny Price, Elaine’s son!)- found a PERFECT song to describe this ‘situation’- if you get a chance listen to it. Beautiful!! It’s by Alan Jackson (who she liked) and it’s on his good time cd it’s called ‘Sissy’s song’ (it should be Elaine M. Merritt’s song too 🙁 …)

  4. *How does someone SO young -who does NOT smoke or drink EVER, ate right -just die??! Never gets to get old?! Even begin to. Such a SWEET YOUNG woman -that’s NOT right! I see all these Grandma’s who look like Grandma’s -& it hurts because my Mom/ my kids Grandma did not look like (because she was still SO many yrs. off still from being your typical ‘Grandma’) -‘Grandma’ -she could’ve, should’ve and would’ve someday. She LOVED being a Grandma too. I know she would’ve enjoyed being one to my brother Kenny’s future children too. She was THE BEST Mom! And Grandma there will ever be…Too bad my Mom couldn’t be like all these other Grandma’s or Mother’s that are still ticking after many MANY more yrs. my Mother will never get to see. She would’ve made all our lives so much brighter and happier having her in it…

  5. *I feel so LOST w/out my Mom ‘here.’ I’ve been taken off track. I’m not sure how to get back on. But I am trying. For me. For her. She’d want me to. She DOES want me to. It’s just so hard w/out my ‘rock.’ I don’t just say she was my bestfriend to sound ‘cute’, she REALLY was. My FAVORITE person!!(along w/ my little one’s, but they are ‘little people’, for now 🙂 )…I miss her SO much and REALLY can NOT believe this is real!

  6. 2 mos. ago today was Christmas. The 3rd picture on here is her @ my house- my 6 year old son had taken the picture w/ his new camera. I remembered I told her that she looked so pretty that day. She did. She was ‘glowing’.
    How can 2 mos. later she have been gone (2wks. tonight)- out of nowhere? 1mos. 1/2 after this beautiful picture was taken of the most beautiful woman I’ll ever know, by her grandson?? HOW??! I’ll never understand any of this!

  7. 3 wks. ago tonight was when I found my Mom. I try to continue on my journey through life w/out my Mom but it’s REAL hard. My hearts SO heavy & broken- never like this before, even close- & w/ all this pain- had my Mom been here- she’d have been the only one person who could make everything ok (or atleast better), somehow. Listening, giving good advice, something, maybe even just the best hug I could ever get from anyone! Now for maybe the next 40 yr.s(?) I have to live a life w/out my bestest friend & my Mother-in 1. I don’t quite know how. I feel such a void in my simple little life that was so full of EVERYTHING before. (My Mom being one of the #1 things before- rather in person or on the phone- just ‘here’ in my life.) Everyday does not get better & I don’t know how to stop the pain. I’m so lost w/out her. Why does this have to be real??!

  8. 54 years ago today you were born. And the world became a MUCH brighter place. Who would’ve thought just 54 years later you’d have come and gone already? It’s sad. SO very sad, you’re gone ALREADY. But you were a little girl. Then a lady. A Mommy. A wife. And SO much more. You had me + Kenny and we’re having/had kids because of you! You live on in all of us. You will continue to. And one by one we will all join you again. Once we are called home. Needless to say, again and again… ‘A VERY Happy Birthday to a true gift from God!’ (If you were not born 54 yrs. ago today there would be no Kenny or me. No Hunter or Samantha. And no Lainee on her way. And possible others someday. SO it hurts like heck that you are not here w/ us, but someday we will all be together again. FOREVER. And all we can do is be thankful for the time on earth we did have together. And got to know you. *What a TRUE and GENUINE GOOD person you TRULY were. Heart of gold. The BEST anyone could be!! THE BEST!
    We WILL be together again.) ‘Happy Birthday Mom! I LOVE you SO much!’…

  9. All the ‘times’ -minutes & hours & YEARS may go by, but my heart knows nothing of time… Conversations, meetings and holidays -everything -we’ll never have -I miss that! I miss her. I miss all of it!! And will continue to FOREVER… I miss it for me, yeah. **But I also miss it for her!

  10. Bought a cd today. I like these guys. Good voice. Heard this song before but not really listening to the words. Describes me w/ this situation pretty well. W/ all the things I’ve been saying, especially recently about being broken and all. I didn’t know there was this song ‘right there.’ -Lifehouse :Broken*

  11. HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM! Not exactly the way and place I would like to tell you this. It breaks me heart knowing that today is ONLY your 54th Birthday and that you are not here with us anymore. I would give anything to be able to send you some flowers like last year and more importantly just give you a call to find out how you’ve been doing and tell you how much I love you! I miss you terribly Mom and just can’t believe someone so young and vitally important to so many is gone so early for no other reason than someone upstairs must’ve had bigger plans. I can’t say for a second I think that is fair though…we NEVER even got a warning to see that this sad day where I can’t even call you on your birthday would be EVEN CLOSE to approaching! I LOVE YOU MOM!:(

  12. Happy Birthday Mom!’ Who would’ve thought you wouldn’t be ‘here’ for your 54th birthday!?? I sure wish I could see you today. Make you a nice dinner + cake. (Give you the BIGGEST hug ever!) Spend some time w/ my favorite lady. -I guess God had bigger plans for you. ‘I miss you Mom! Happy Birthday Sweet Mom!’ My heart aches that ‘this’ is the way it is -but I also do KNOW I WILL see you again. I love you Mom & I hope you enjoy your day w/ your loved ones up there. Especially your Mom + Dad!

  13. -‘Happy Easter Mom!’- ‘normally’ it probably would’ve been just you & your man + me & my ‘family’ together, having an Easter ham @ your place? -small gathering but perfect. What I wouldn’t give to have spent today w/ you. Or any other day for that matter.

  14. Happy Mother’s Day Mom! Can’t even imagine that this is really how I have to tell you…and unfortunately you probably won’t really get this message. I know you know though. It breaks my heart into a million pieces when I look through old things and can really just try to appreciate all your hard work, attention to detail and most importantly your overwhelming love that you poured into your family. I miss you way too much to even describe and I would give anything to have you here for just a little more time so I could ask you some things about YOU. It still just doesn’t seem even possible that you can be gone! I think about you all the time and it still stops my very breathe because it just doesn’t make sense that I can’t just pick up the phone and give you a call. I LOVE YOU MOM and there was still so much more time we needed to spend together and it will always hurt terribly knowing we can’t do so. I thank God above for blessing me with such a wonderful mother to have in my life for the time you were here. I hope you no longer feel any pain and are enjoying Mother’s day with your Mom. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MOM!

  15. -‘Happy Mothers day Mom.’ I do hate this. EVERYDAY. ‘I Love You.’ I will see you again + be w/ you someday. Until then, this is all SO much to handle. I will be talking to you (on a regular basis.) You’re CONSTANTLY on my mind and in my broken heart… (c

  16. Her feet don’t touch the same ground ours do. She doesn’t breathe the same air we do. That is DISTURBING to me! And cuts like a knife through my already broken heart. I feel SO close to her still, yet SO far away @ the same time. We live in 2 totally different ‘worlds’ right now, and that is HARD for me to comprehend.

  17. -I always thought she’d ‘always be there.’ That’s what Mothers do -they’re always there. She still is, I do feel. But it’s not the same, obviously. I just NEVER thought it could ever be like this. -Already. In my life. **In HER life!!…

  18. I can’t take credit for finding ‘sissy’s song’ by Alan Jackson. My fiance’s (Katie’s), sister Kelley was listening to her mom’s new cd, came across this and started to cry. She knew she had found the perfect song that may in some way help sooth our troubled hearts. It is PERFECT!
    Even though it has now been more than a month since the initial shock…it is still impossible to believe. I guess you always take loved ones for granted but losing my mother at such a young age is absolutely heartwrenching!
    We are carrying our soon to be first born and have found out she is a healthy growing baby girl. We are going to name her Lainee in my mother’s memory. If she cannot meet her wonderful grandmother (who was so proud when she heard the news of us expecting)…she will honor her name:)

  19. I had the pleasure of working with Elaine at RIT. I will always remember her smiling face. Please know that your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

  20. I hate this life without my Mom in it. It’s just so different. I am not the same. Life is not the same, @ all… Whole different outlook. I feel like a lone soldier. Who must keep truckin’ on for the sake of my kids & I do want to for that, but it’s SO hard to do without her.

  21. I hate this. I hate the word hate. But how
    else do you describe ‘this’… -I hate EVERYTHING about ‘this.’ I HATE that my dear sweet Mother is no longer in this world w/ us… I hate that I go to this sad list of the deceased to look up my YOUNG Mother’s name!! -to add entries to try and ‘feel closer’, or something, to my Mother who is no longer here and definitely SHOULD BE!! This is all just SO sad and so UNBELIEVABLE…

  22. I just heard about Elaine today through a rather roundabout path. I am very sorry for your family’s loss. As an adjunct faculty member in the Psychology department, I worked with Elaine for six years. She was always helpful and friendly and would often go beyond what was expected answer a question or solve a problem. I will miss her.

  23. I love it when someone will say: ‘You’re just like your Mother’. Even if it’s something ‘silly’. I AM my Mother’s daughter + I can only hope, someday, I can be 1/2 the truly wonderful lady she was… (And is)

  24. I may smile and say ‘I’m good’. But I’m not. And neither are some of the others who say they are w/ this. How could we be? We try and convince ourselves, but that’s what it is ‘convincing’. We’re not ok and may never be. -Broken. Very broken. Unfixable even. But yet we ‘run’ broken because that’s how we’re wired I guess. I know I’ll NEVER be the same. How could I be. *She was Precious. She IS Precious… (I hate this.)

  25. I miss my mom terribly. It still seems as though it is not reality. She was so young and full of life. It was only two weeks ago today that she was going about her everyday routine. She was the sweetest woman I will ever have the pleasure of knowing and was so fortunate to have her guidance through all of life’s twists and turns. I will never understand why she had to leave so suddenly and will forever miss her.

  26. I miss my Mom.
    I can’t believe she’s gone.
    It doesn’t make sense.
    My bestfriend.
    It hurts SO bad.
    I don’t know what to do w/out her.
    How to even live.
    I know I have to though.
    If not for anything else- for my kids- her grandkids.
    It’s hard.
    She was my everything…
    This doesn’t seem real.

  27. I really can’t believe my Mom’s ‘stay’ here on earth is over! I did appreciate her when she was here but if I had thought ONCE that ‘this’ could happen, ALREADY, @ this VERY YOUNG age in her seemingly healthy life -I would have appreciated her that much more! I would have ‘rolled the red carpet’ out for that
    DEAR SWEET woman EVERY chance I had to be lucky enough to be in her presence. And there WOULD HAVE been much more of the visits to be in her presence… It hurts SO much that she is gone! I wish that I ‘got’ ‘life and death’ before and had spent more time w/ my dear sweet Mom while I was lucky enough to have her here. I miss her SO much…

  28. I still can NOT believe the HARSH reality of all of this. The disbelief I can’t help but feel that this is truly REAL, how could it be??! It’s truly heartbreaking, DEVASTATING. I don’t know that I’ll ever really ‘get this.’ *None of it makes sense!!…

  29. I still can’t believe this to be true. In no way in my wildest nightmares would I EVER have figured this to be a possibility @ this EARLY stage in my life…more importantly hers! It literally takes my breathe away EVERYTIME I think of my beautiful young mother and the harsh reality that she is gone… and knowing I can’t just give her a call and fill her in on new things going on in my life…that she would’ve been so happy about…or just to make some plans for our next visit:( It doesn’t even seem POSSIBLE that this COULD be true! It is so hard trying to adjust life back to ‘normal’. I try to keep busy but I just NEVER realized just how much my mom meant to me until it was too late. All the little things talked about that seemed so frivilous @ the time now are just constant reminders of just HOW MUCH this woman meant to me…the IMPACT she had on my life and how cheated I feel for me and her that she is gone. I honestly can’t believe that I will not see my mother, smiling with pride and joy holding my future baby girl.

  30. I still can’t COMPREHEND I can’t EVER: hug her. Look @ her sweet, young face. HEAR her voice talking to me. Be w/ her in the same room. -while I live on this earth, ever again. Someday, just not while I’m here. I DO want to be here for awhile yet. It’s just unfathomable it’s going to be w/out my Mom. My bestfriend. I can’t understand that. For HER. For me. 🙁 It’s hard.

  31. I try & ‘keep moving’ w/ my kids + such. @ lunch, reading them a book, everyday things- not the same. I’m not ‘myself’ @ all anymore. How could I be w/ such a major part of my life ‘missing’. But yet- I have to keep trucking somehow because she’d want me to + you never know when it’ll be your turn. You just disappear. Like she. How does that feel for my poor Mom!?? Poof & you’re gone- right in the MIDDLE of her life! Poor SWEET Mom!!
    She’s ALL I think about/ dream about-CONSTANTLY on my brain + in my broken heart…Missing her terribly-

  32. I try to look for comfort in others. What else am I going to do?! -Although others try + are nice -NO-1 comes close to what I need. I’m not trying to ‘replace’ my Mom (NO-ONE EVER could!!) -just get through this. It’s hard. Real hard. I was a strong person. Not so much anymore. Weak. Very weak w/ all of this. I’m a wreck. I’m trying. I DON’T want to die of a broken heart. Not now. I got my darlings. She would not want that either!! Out of all the people, why her??!…

  33. I was always so proud of my Mom, ALWAYS… She’d show up @ a soccer game for the kids or we’d be @ a country concert for Dierks Bentley together, just me & her (looking like my sister) + I was so proud of my young ‘hot mama.’ -It was fun ‘showing her off.’ She was ‘my girl.’ She was alot of fun to be around!! Sweet young lady.
    I was just beginning to understand just how close we were. ‘Always my Mother, now too my friend.’ -Always was an EXCELLENT Mother! -She was also always my friend -but being a woman now w/ kids + all -we were @ another chapter in life together that would have just grown + grown. So close yet so far away from being so much closer w/
    more + more in common everyday.
    Could relate more. Was finally beginning to understand just what that wonderful
    wonderful woman really meant to me -EVERYTHING… I do feel so lost w/out her here. Her Motherly advice. Her guidance. Her!! Life is not as ‘beautiful’ as it once was w/ her in it. Not for me. There’s such a huge part ‘missing.’

  34. I’d like to call my Mom. See what she’s doing. What she’s been up to. What she’s doing this weekend. Maybe next weekend would be better for her. Go see her. -No. Never again. Not in this lifetime anyway. -I will see her again. I do believe! It’s just this time apart is tearing me up. I do feel SO lost without her. Not my true self. Not @ all. BROKEN –

  35. I’m having such a hard time w/ this!! I feel helpless. I’m trying to ‘get a grip’ -but I can’t. I try to keep busy but the pain is always there… I still don’t sleep and ALL I think about is her. I miss her SO much & it hurts SO bad, so bad!! 🙁 …

  36. It breaks my heart every time I go to this ‘visitation’. My MOM’S name is on here w/ all the elderly. -She NEVER got to get to!! Anyway, my entry was going to just say: FOREVER LOVE, by Reba. Another very nice song that makes me think of my Mom. No, we’re not a ‘couple’ (I get that) but there definitely was a bond (and there still is). I’ll FOREVER love my Mom. And she’ll FOREVER love me. And someday we’ll ALL be together again…

  37. Just wanted to clear up ‘obsession’ -w/ my Mom it would’ve been something cute like -she had to get me ALL the strawberry shortcake dolls in the collection, where as my Aunt (my Mom’s sister) would only get like 2 of the dolls for her daughter (like most people would 🙂 ) , my Aunt had recently told me. I bought my daughter, who’s 5, this one whole barbie collection (new) you couldn’t even buy in the store because it was from a few yrs. ago. But I wanted it for her, ‘all the dolls’ just like my Mom did for us :). Kenny too -HeMan -ALL the figures, castle and all. So, that’s what I mean by obsession w/ my Mom. Cute, sweet ‘obsessions’. Cabbage patch kids -I had 1 of each kind. She’d wait until stores opened up searching for them! I had a cornsilk, a premie, an ‘original haired’ and a newborn. And ofcourse they were all cute, she would only buy ‘good stuff’ ,very percise in what she was looking for. (I still have them.) She just wanted to give us everything she could. She never bought herself much. She always loved us selflessly. If she thought it would make us happy -she’d do it. She was the BEST! She STILL is…

  38. Life is just seconds of eternity, right?!! It’s just hard to get from point A to point B without your Mom in your life. And for no seemingly good reason. One second she’s great & the next gone. Suddenly. Sweet dear Mom. So undeserving of this.

  39. MEMORIES -‘Thank God for memories.’ *Precious memories. Too bad that’s all we have to work w/ @ this point in our/HER young lives… Who would’ve thought.

  40. Mom was pure. Honest. True. NEVER told a lie. Couldn’t. Wouldn’t. People like her are few and far between. Yet, The ‘good ones’ go 1st?!! She ‘deserved’ life more than anyone I know. Maybe that’s why -God had a more ‘proper’ place for her. ‘Amongst the angels’. And if we prove ourselves good -we get ‘rewarded’
    too someday -w/ her. In Heaven. (I still don’t know why it couldn’t be 20yrs. later! 10, 5 -I’d take anything ((w/ a warning would have been nice)) -but it is what it is. Maybe someday, when we get there, we’ll understand the why. Until then we should ‘believe’ because it has to be, it just HAS TO BE…)