November 15, 1929 ~ July 25, 2020

Born in: Atlanta, NY
Resided in: Rochester, NY

Betty L. VanGelder 

Henrietta – Saturday, July 25, 2020 at age 90. Predeceased by her husband, Richard E. Sr. “Whip” VanGelder; son Ronald VanGelder. Survived by ; her loving children, Richard E. Jr. (Jerrie) VanGelder, Gloria VanGelder and Shari (Thomas) Allston; daughter-in-law Malissa Van Gelder; 9 grandchildren and 13 great-grandchildren and several nieces and nephews.
Friends are invited to attend her graveside prayers, Tuesday. August 4th 11:00 AM in Pleasant Valley Cemetery, Hammondsport, New York.  In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the University of Rochester, Palliative Care Unit 4-1200 or a charity of one’s choice in her memory.

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  1. Remember her for the support she offered my Dad when he was going through a rough time. May she rest in piece

  2. I have many fond memories of my aunt Betty, sleep overs at her house her making my cousin Ron and I breakfast and applebutter sandwiches, and the legendary pinochle games my parents had with aunt Betty and Uncle dick. I love you aunt Betty may you rest in peace.

  3. I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve heard so many good Mom stories from you Gloria! I’m sending you all my love.

  4. Betty was a wonderful lady! We have many fond memories of her and the family. I remember the trips to the island and yes it is much easier by boat! We love you all ,and may God continue to give you the peace that goes beyond all understanding during this time!❤️🙏
    Love, Bryan & Judy Johnston

  5. Thinking of the Van Gelder family during the loss of Betty. Our families grew up together in an amazing neighborhood. Great memories. Sending prayers and sympathy.
    Love ❤️ the Ottman’s

  6. Our sympathies go out to the VanGelder family in the loss of Betty VanGelder. We will always remember her big smile every time we would get together with Shari and Tom. A beautiful person. Our prayers are with you.
    Love, Rick and Sue

  7. Gloria and family, I am sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find strength in her memory during this difficult time and may she rest in peace.

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